The many sides of the fetish.

[Guy from NY]

Hello all, I'm new. I have been a fan of the site and have visited for awhile now, and thought I'd join and say hello. I'm a NY Italian who has shared in the fetish for...ever!

I am truly fascinated by how many perspectives there are when it comes to guys with the fetish. You have guys like me, on one hand. In every serious relationship I have had, in my soon to be XX years, the woman grew to absolutely love the fetish, and training was only part of the fun! It became part of their sexuality, once they felt the sensuality and erotic satisfaction of it all. I am a naturally dominant type, but am also uninhibited, and confident, enough to open the world up to the woman I am sharing myself with, if she has not already had experience that is. If they have, I just made them a lot better! But my open nature creates an open environment, this making me one of the most fun, and liked, lovers they have run into. (Not my words, and I don't ask) I have experienced things most guys never get to, why? Big secret, I talked about it! I never saw it as a "being dominated", or certainly not "humiliation" sort of thing. It is more a sensual play that can be taken to extreme levels and create great intensity, mutually.

Then, you have the other guys. The ones who hide the fetish, ashamed, I dunno, ...of what? It's probably the most popular fetish out there. Every woman nowadays has had some exposure, and believe me, it's something they are intrigued to learn about! Also, typically, if a woman is not into her feet it shows because she does not take care of her feet, and that makes us have no interest to begin with,lol, so it works out fine! But, they stay quiet anyway. They do the usual motions, getting an occasional half hearted foot tease maybe, maybe not. Perhaps they see it as being dominated and losing "control", and they are afraid of that. In a way it is. It's relinquishing some control, allowing a turning of the tables if you will, and that's a great thing. But, they go through life never exploring the fetish with the one they love. Instead, often, seeking "pro's" to satisfy. Here's the hitch, "pro's" don't have any emotional attatchment to them, and it feels that way too, but it was [i]sorta [/i]what they hoped for.

Then there's guys you read about in stories, and real life, that if they are touched under the table immidiately are reduced to quivering piles of flesh, lol. ( No offense to out school story writer, I like the stories, and there ARE guys like this) I don't know what to make of these guys, but at least they enjoy it, I guess.

Society seems to paint the last example as the more the norm. The "wimpy, bad lover that only deserves to be made to grovel", geez. Well, I'm here to say, NOTHING COULD BE FURTER FROM THE TRUTH!!!. No woman ever saw me that way, nor was ever anything short of greatly taken care of, but I do take care of them too, see, so, yeah that helps, lol.

I know many guys out there agree, and some of this may seem pointless to them, but I just had to get my POV on this out there. My advice to all guys who are scared to really ask for the things you want? Inhibitions kill, lose them fast! You have a life to live, and whole erotic world waiting for you....yours.

My advice to the women, talk back!...and get really soft stockings!

I hope I helped in some small, crazy way! I am here for advice anytime, lol.

Peace,
NY

Oh, btw, p.s., Nyllover, great site!, and your wife is a raving beauty! Many congrats to you both!

[Dead Parrot]

Welcome aboard!

It seems that you have received what you wanted from women because you asked for it.

This is a simple truism so obvious that it is overlooked: you will never get what you want in life unless you ask for it.

Glad you're enjoying the site. Please feel free to chime in on your favorite scenes or stories.

DP

[nyllover]

Welcome on board!