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I'm 20 and I don't have a girl friend, which means I am still a virgin in actual sex.
But I have had several (accidental) footjobs which felt awesome and my major fantasies are mostly about footjobs instead of actual sex. I watched porns but those can't really get me off, but when it comes to a foot scene I got a erection. I'm beginning to wonder whether I will be too much into feet and lose interest in actual sex, which is completely not what I want.
SO GUys ,please tell me what I'm supposed to do!
Am I a freak or something, or should I go to see a psychiartrist to receive behavioral therapy or sth
Theres nothing wrong with you. The key thing however is that your future girlfriend will want you to think shes attractive everywhere, not just her feet. I have more intense orgasms from footjobs than from sex. You should consider it a blessing in disguise. From my experience, sex lasts longer because while it feels good, your not 100% turned on. So you don't have an orgasm in like 2 seconds. Girls hate guys that climax too quickly. So consider it a blessing. Also, if the relationship is worth it, you guys should be indulging each other's fantasies. If she likes sex, you should do it to please her. And then she'll please you as well. Your fine, theres nothing wrong with you.
Thanks a lot for your reply, Crowe. Thing is that I am quite concerned that I'm into feet too much that I might won't be aroused in the actual sex way. In other words, I don't know whether I'm able to have actual, normal sex
I would like to add that I too enjoy foot-jobs just as much as normal sex if not a little more. Truth be told normal porn is rather boring and I can only get off to feet/pantyhose erotica. Although I do enjoy the occasional anal video. I'll tell you this much about being a virgin, (I was up till I was 24 by choice) once you experience the sensation of actual penetration you may find yourself more incline to conduct actual sex more than you think. Although no one says you can't enjoy the foot-job first during the foreplay before conducting actual sex. The feeling of being inside your partner is in many ways, indescribable but I will tell you the "warm apple pie" thing is stupid and bullshit, not that I have tried such a thing. I just think comparing the actual experience to anything other than the act is stupid. Many words have been used to try and describe it but nothing compares to the actual experience. Foot-jobs will be the safest sex you can have and a great way to enjoy your partner until you find someone or are ready for the actual true moment. My final word is be safe, have fun and don't hide who you are from anyone especially any potential lovers. Be truthful within the first few dates as to not set either of you up for any disappointment. Not to so though as to scare any one off. I usually did it after the third or so date, if things seemed to be going in the right direction. No therapy needed if I say so myself, you just need to find the right person.
Crowe wrote:Theres nothing wrong with you. The key thing however is that your future girlfriend will want you to think shes attractive everywhere, not just her feet. I have more intense orgasms from footjobs than from sex. You should consider it a blessing in disguise. From my experience, sex lasts longer because while it feels good, your not 100% turned on. So you don't have an orgasm in like 2 seconds. Girls hate guys that climax too quickly. So consider it a blessing. Also, if the relationship is worth it, you guys should be indulging each other's fantasies. If she likes sex, you should do it to please her. And then she'll please you as well. Your fine, theres nothing wrong with you.
Did you know that the reason behind the quick climax was caused by the conditioning of quick masturbation during growing up. As teens or puberty when you first discover self pleasuring we tend to make it a quick thing so we don't get caught. This especially common for youth who grow up in an environment with strong religious principals, as sex is taught as sinful, and masturbation was forbidden. So you find yourself caught up in the moment (cuz lets face it as a teen our sexual urges is in overdrive) and the only way to get rid of it was to jerk off, better make it quick so no one catches you. So with all that your mind and body becomes conditioned to the quick release.
You can also use masturbation and several other techniques, such as Tantra, Kama Sutra, and other techniques to control your mind and body to prevent the early climax. I personally will take the time to teach sex ed to my girls (and not rely on the school) and that nothing between two consenting adults is wrong and masturbation is the only way to learn your body and how to enjoy it. I will not condemn sex and my five year old already knows babies come from mommy's belly. I have also taught her how it is wrong for people to touch her in her privates by anyone not being her mother or a doctor. You can never prepare them early enough.
Thanks a lot for your concern and post christo. I can't tell you how much I appreciate your help.
It's good to know that someone else who is also in a similar situation is leading a happy couple life as well, which is a major goal of my life.
Thanks again, man! Really enjoyed talking with u
Hey brew!
First, all i can do is describe things from my side, so take everything I say with a grain of salt. But I hope I can help you out a little!
I, too, have a strong fetish for nylons and tights. So how do footjobs compare to sex? Well, they're two very different flavors of experience. And sometimes, you *will* be in the mood for one, but the only thing that's available is the other. It happens.
Will you be able to get off? ...this one's tough. I'll be honest with you: I can usually only get off during sex if I actually like my partner and find her attractive. With footjobs, I feel like I could walk into a nursing home and still walk out satisfied.
...Okay, maybe it's not that bad, but the point is: yes, with some people, I am much more interested in foot fetishism than actual sex. But those tend to be people with whom I'm less emotionally involved. When you find someone you can get emotionally close too, you'll find yourself interested in both, and you should have someone who cares enough to accommodate you.
By the way, if you are in America, I greatly suggest you listen to a radio show called 'Loveline' with Dr. Drew. Pinski. It's a radio call-in show for all sorts of questions on sex, love, and drug abuse. And when you hear what other people are into, you'll realize that foot fetishism is the very shallow end of the fetishism diving pool. Don't believe me? Look up "sounding wand". Or don't. Actually, you probably shouldn't...what you see, you can't unsee.
But hope this helps!
As any others have stated, there's nothing wrong about making fantasies on having footjobs from partners, occasional or not.
This is normal from a person who has a strong fetish and a fantasy can be simply the medium to express our love to another person.
All other things such true love and trust will come as consequence once found the right person, IMHO.
asgard wrote:In other words, I don't know whether I'm able to have actual, normal sex
Trust me... you will. Once you begin having intercourse, it will become something you'll enjoy. Everyone has a certain sexual preference and you may end up enjoying footjobs the most, but you will learn to enjoy intercourse... rest assured.
Just remember, you are not weird in any way. As a matter of fact, you'll find that women will really like your expanded "sexual repertoire". Vanilla sex can become boring after a while if you don't mix it up, and women will learn to love the diversity you'll be able to offer.
